subjectification

I am hoping this is a localised example.

This conversation occurred in a car when my daughter and I could not look at each other – often I feel more stuff comes out when your hands are busy, when the brain is doing a side task. This is the jist of the conversation.

daughter: I realised the other day I could just do the things you ask me (she was thinking about that it was her turn to make dinner and it was a dinner that took time – Pea and ham soup YUM). After you nagged me I was making a list of the things I wanted/needed to do, 1)Keep doing this project while listening to my story, 2) eat pea and ham soup, 3) Keep doing this project without having my story (her mean mother had turned off the story to access a part of her brain!! and had reminded her that pea and ham soup takes a while to cook and she shoiuld start soon). Then I realised while I was doing my project without the story that I could just go and make the soup, achieveing one of my goals and go back after and do my project with the story which I like better…

Her cello lessons are another form of this: I expect her to do three practices for me to continue to pay for her lessons, also to show respect to her teacher… she has realised that: practicing makes her better at it, and the more she practices, the more enjoyable it is. So I no longer have to remind her much, and she pratices more!

I think this is a form of agency, but with more metacognition.